Today's chatty Cathy ...

So, I've been chatting a little with an older guy today. He says he's wanting a friend. 

Well, that's great to me. If only he really means it. And, on that note, do you, guys? When you say that you're only looking for a friend, do you really mean it? I only ask because of all the guys I've had a chat with on this site, none of them know what they're looking for. Most of them don't even know what they put in their profiles. It's always surprising to them when I reiterate what they've posted in the "what am I here for" line. "What? I don't want to date!" Oh really, mister? That's what it says in your profile. 

I mean, c'mon guys. Do you really think we're that stupid? What makes you think the girl wants to chase your sorry ass down? If you make a girl chase you, that's just one of the lowest things you can do. But, if she does chase you, well ... she's the one with issues. At least, that's my opinion. 

You all know I don't chase guys. It's humiliating, degrading, and down right trashy. If he doesn't want to be with you, and makes you play these games to win HIS affections, he is not worth it. Oh, trust me. The really young guy I talked about in my previous post, dude is ALL about the "catch me if you can" games. I don't know what makes him think I'm so desperate to be in touch. I don't even play. He'll go days at a time without communicating, and then he's chatty again. He leaves me hanging usually before he goes awol for a few days. Am I supposed to text him? I really don't care what society's protocols for these things are now days, so if I am supposed to text, sorry dude. I don't play games. Over that shit, so I wish he would go find some young twenty-something's mind to play games with. 

And, on a happier note, I just realized that I am the only one in my family who is unattached. The baby of us cousins on my mom's side just revealed she is in a relationship. And, now I'm the only single in the family, that is, who isn't a baby or a child. So, this holiday season, I will be the only one without a partner as we gather to celebrate my most favorite time of year. Me, the one who always wanted to share in that special time with someone who meant more than just hanging out to me. It's sad, yes, but it is my choice to be single. So, I can't complain much, now can I? Just some hard hitting truths rear their ugly heads, and I simply can't ignore it. I wish I could. I've officially become the black sheep spinster of my family. Awesome. 

xoxo