Pressed against the sky

Eyes wide open ... yes, every time I hear this song, it takes me back to memories of those I've lost. Hell below, stars above as well.

For those who have no idea what I'm talking about, I'm referring to two songs done by one of my favorite bands, The Toadies. I've had the opportunity to see them perform live once a few years ago. Phenomenal live, and I've been listening to their stuff a lot, again. 

Anyway ... on a happier note, this past weekend was a really good one. On Saturday, we celebrated one of my uncles' retirement from HPD at Sam Choy's on Nimitz. Good company and good food. We had a great time. Then, later I got ready for date night with my guy. We met two of my good friends for dinner at Stage and had a blast. After dinner, he and I caught Oz, the great and powerful at Ward to finish off our night. It was a relatively early night for us both, but I didn't want it to end. Never do. 

That's ok, because this coming weekend should be a good one for us! Hoping I get to see him two days out of my three day weekend. But, Thursday night, I'll be taking my little B to see the Croods (again) since we just loved it! This time, we'll watch it in regular movie-vision. 

Other weekend plans with my guy aren't set yet, but I'm thinking a movie night where I introduce him to the "thumb" movies. For those of you who don't know what the "thumb" movies are, google it. They are hilarious! My favorite being "Thumb Wars" ... oh yeah. 

So, that's it for now. Things are pretty good ... happy for the moment. Going home soon with one more work day this week. And, then the fun begins! xoxo ....

Randomness ....

Hello readers! Thanks again for tuning in ... this time, it's random things on my mind.

Last week, we started the reno' on my bathroom and I gotta say, I'm excited. It's a small job, but still happy to update my bathroom before the rest of the house gets tossed into complete renovation chaos! Upon completion, I am outfitting myself with a brand new bed since sleeping on my couch just ain't cutting it anymore. Why the couch, you ask? Well, my bed was tres old, worn out and just plain uncomfortable. These days, if I get the opportunity to sleep on a bed (of a relative, mind you!), I freakin' take it! Can't wait until I have my own, soft and yummy memory foam bed to crash on every night.

So, on Saturday, we went shopping for all new fixtures, new vanity and toilet for my bathroom. Sounds down right boring, doesn't it? I guess it's a different story when it's your own job. Quite happy to be at home depot making all those weighty decisions. 

After our utility shopping outing, we made it home just in time for me to get B in the bath, as well as myself. I had a date that evening, and he wanted to get it started early. We picked up some dinner at Pietro's before going back to his place to make it a Netflix night. Very nice, relaxing ... but, wait! A trip to Gordon Biersch detoured the night, but not for long. The moto krew had been out, so we decided to join them for some live, really good jazz funk. After that, it was back to Netflix, and a sort of zombie apocalyptic movie. 

It was a great night, and I'm so glad we got to just chill. Definitely having a great time with this one. 

Now, we're in the middle of the week anticipating all the fun activities planned for the weekend. Friday, post work, we'll be enjoying "movie night" at B's school where they will be showing "Wreck It Ralph." We've already seen it, but we're going more for B ... so that she can have fun watching it with her friends. Early Saturday, B and I will be hosting a "Munchkin Day Out" for some of our friends. We'll start the morning off at the Children's Discovery Center, followed by lunch at Spaghetti Factory. 

Sunday is Saint Patrick's day, and we'll be celebrating with friends at the beach with a fun bbq! Later in the day, we have passes to the movie "the Croods" showing at Dole, and that night ... The Walking Dead.

Yes readers, it's gonna be a busy one with lots of fun in store! I might be back later with another post ... xoxo 

Better things to come

So, I mentioned that I'm moving on to better times in my life, and this is true. Though, I just lost a good friend and, my heart mourns for her life that was cut short, I'm still in a good place. 

For now, all I will say is this ... life is good. Positive things are happening for me, and I am pretty happy about it. I pray things will keep going this way, and get even better. More fun times to be had, more good family bonding, as well as stronger connections with friends. 

I've been laying low for long enough. It's time I get back out there and experience the life that I put on hold for a while. There is someone special in my life, and I intend on keeping it that way. This individual gives me hope that there are still real good people out there in this crazy world. For that, I am happy he came back into my life. 

It's about time I left the office, lovers. So, be good and have a great night! 

xoxo

Story time ... again!

Back by popular demand!! Ok, just ONE of my readers had been asking where this post went and demanded I put it back on my blog, so here it is .... story time, November 2012 style!

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November 18, 2012

Something I thought had the potential of being real turned out fake ... in a heart flash....

Though he wasn't a stunner to the naked eye, C was a nice guy and we were starting to hit it off. As friends. I'll just get right to the point ...

Friday night, a bunch of my riding friends and I planned a fantastic night out. We had reservations at a great restaurant in town and then, a night of fun checkin' out boobies at two strip clubs. The girls planned to dress it up, and yes, we did look hot! The guys looked great as well, and we all had a fun time at dinner. Two of my good friends also joined us at dinner and had a nice time as well. 

I invited C to be my "date" that night. I suppose that was the first thing I did wrong. I invited him along because I thought he'd have a good time and I wanted to introduce him to my riding friends since he rides street bikes as well. He thought he was my date for the evening. So, when J, another guy friend showed up, things got a little weird for C and I guess I can't blame him for getting upset with me. 

Although, I wasn't dating C yet, I was having fun hanging out and getting to know him. I know he liked me a lot, and I was starting to feel the same. So, after dinner, we got to the club and everything was great. We were all enjoying each show that came to our table, even C. He definitely showed enthusiasm as each girl danced, and I was fine with that. No green-eyed monster. We sat close, but no touching of any kind, really. As more friends showed up, room in our booth got very cozy. At one point in the night, I was smack-dab in the middle of J and C. More friends came over to sit at the booth, so everyone scrunched in and I was the only girl NOT sitting on someones lap, so I got up and said to the boys "I need to sit on someones lap, so who's it gonna be?" J was the first to offer his, so I sat. 

Now that I think about it, I can't imagine how uncomfortable that must have made C. In his mind, we were on a "date" and he did take care of me all night until then. But, I didn't think anything of it so I didn't make a big deal. I still talked with him and paid him attention, but, he kept disappearing and was constantly on his phone. At one point, I thought he left me there. 

Side Note: When I'm out with friends, family, on a date or just hanging out, cell phone activity is at a bare minimum. I mean, most times I don't even pull my phone out of my bag. And, I'm usually the only one not doing the "gotta check my phone" thing. I don't understand and to me, it's rude to be on your phone at all when in the company of others. Especially if it's just two people ... whether you're hanging out or on a date. It shouldn't matter and that says a lot about a person. At least, it does to me. 

Anyway, the night went on for a bit longer, and then C tells me that he's gonna bounce. It was still early, and I was a little shocked. He asks if I can get a ride with someone else and I tell him that no one was going my way. He was my ride, and it was then that I knew he was bothered. 

Just before midnight, the group was getting ready to leave the club and I noticed C had been gone for a while. Maybe if I checked my phone sooner, or followed him outside, I wouldn't have been left stranded. But, I did not and waited to pull my phone out when we got outside. I looked around, but I didn't see him. I look at my phone and there it is ... two text messages from C saying that he's left me and to never contact him again. 

Ooo ... harsh. I mean, yes I was cruisin' on my friends lap for a while, but to just leave like that? I could be more understanding if he was my boyfriend, or we were exclusively dating. But, none had been the case. He was the one that insisted on taking things at a glacial pace and just being friends. He didn't act like a friend. And, it kind of breaks my heart because I did like him being around. 

I tried to get him to answer my texts and called him twice ... with no answer. I wanted an explanation from the "nicest guy" but, there would be none. He's removed me from his life and I haven't tried to get back in. If he could just leave me the way he did, he was never a nice guy to begin with. 

Things were going so well with C, and in an instant, gone. 

It's time to watch the Walking Dead. By myself. 
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Hope you all enjoyed that one! Sad to say, this was a true story. And, since then, I saw C for another couple weeks before calling it quits. The more I got to know him, the more I didn't like him, it turned out. Guy was LA-ZY ... oh, my god. Didn't cook, only shopped when he absolutely HAD to, and the final blow came after I mistakenly took him to one of my favorite spots for lunch downtown. He made a scene over NOTHING, and I just had it. 

Luckily, I've been a patron of that establishment for over a decade, so they did not chastise me for bringing so much drama to their restaurant.

A funny thought comes to mind that happened on that night I got stranded. My girl that I just lost on Sunday said to me after learning what an ass C had been, "girl, he wasn't even that good looking anyway!" The thought of her words and the face she was making just makes me smile and laugh. She was a true and genuine soul who could see right through others. She was right about this one, and I'm truly grateful to be on to better things!

Speaking of better things, that post is coming up ....

xoxo

Pause ...

Hello readers! Yes, after a long pause, I'm back again. I wish this could be a happier post, but I am currently in a haze as I just lost a good friend in a motorcycle accident yesterday.

She was an amazing person, and though I only knew her for half a year, she made me feel like I was apart of something good. She was one of us, and she will be forever missed. 

It's still so shocking when I think that I'll never see her again. I'm here at work, but my mind is somewhere else. I keep re-living our conversations, our times together, plans we made for the future, and how much fun we always had. 

Last night, we all met up at one of our favorite spots to be together in our time of tragedy. After a few drinks and some good bonding time, we had a very nice candle light vigil honoring her life. It was beautiful and so touching to see how many lives this wonderful girl brought together. So heart-warming to see everyone pull together to make sure her son, who is the same age as B, is taken care of. She worked so hard to make sure her son would have a better life, and it's so unfair that her life was taken too soon. 

But, then I think that she's in heaven watching over all of us. Something she always did while she was still with us. One of the best people I've come to know. I'll miss her always ....


There have been some other news in my life, good news, actually. But, I'll save that for another post.

Later readers ....