Sometimes, shit happens ...

Remember a while back in one of my earliest posts, I wrote about how dating within my group of friends was just out of the question? Well, yes I am now dating one of them, but that's beside the point. And, it's a whole different case.

This recent situation has to do with one of my riding buddies who is deployed at the moment. He had started seeing this girl a few months before he left. She's a sweet girl, and the group welcomed her while he was here, and embraced her after he left. She has been included in everything. It was our pleasure to make her feel like one of us for the sake of our buddy. 

But, this past weekend proved the point I made in my earlier post about girls that are brought into the group by one of the guys just because they are dating. 

Some shit went down Friday night, and now she is an outcast. All the guys are convinced she's bad news, and now I don't know what to do since I have become pretty good friends with her. Sigh.

Since I'm dating one of the main guys in our group, it makes it extra hard to keep up this friendship. I know she's sad about it being over, but I think it's even harder because she was doing things with us a lot. Even some of the girls I talked to are mixed about it. I feel bad, but if the accusations are true, I'm gonna have to leave this one alone. 

It's not at all about who I'm dating, or what he'll think of me. It's about the fact we trusted this girl to be true to one of our friends. And, that's the thing. I think that if she and my friend had split on mutual terms, she would still be welcome in our framily. But, since it ended horribly, she'll no longer be a part of anything we do. 

And, that is what I was talking about. Coming into such a wonderful group as my motorcycle framily as someone's significant other, rather than another motorcycle lover. It's a totally different thing. These people are not only my friends, they've become like family. And, had I started dating one of them from the beginning, I guarantee that I wouldn't be a part of them the way I am now. 

Such is the case with one of our other girl friends. She and her guy are teetering on the brink of a broken relationship. She's been around the group for well over a year now, but once it's over (if it goes that way), she'll be outcast from a lot of events as well. Though, I won't shun her, it will be hard for her to not be a part of a lot of the things we all do together. 

You may think I'm being judgmental about these girls, but I can assure you that I'm not. I like them, and will keep them as friends. The first one, not so sure about yet because that one ended really badly. Though, she's always been kind and sweet to me, I'm staying out of this one. I told her to just let it go, and it's for the best. And, it really is. 

So, I've had a full day today, but I'm heading out again. Bowling in Kailua. Have a good night, loves.

xoxo

The Search ...

Yes, the search for the perfect job is on! No, not the perfect job, but what would be perfect to me. A writing job. Something that wouldn't seem like work at all. I don't think I was really serious about it before. Yes, I have posted that I've always wanted to get paid for my writing, but now it might actually come true. I'm trying. Hard. Very hard to get one ... or a few. 

Most of the ads I'm responding to are writing for online magazines and blogs. So, I figure that would be a great way to start. I'm still working towards publishing my first novel, but have hit a few setbacks with that. Not to worry. It's still on schedule. 

In other news, things with FB are progressing. We just had another talk on Monday about what we are doing. He's been in Colorado for about two weeks now, and he's more settled. I'm so glad, and I'm so happy. Though, we're thousands of miles apart, we've decided to give it a real try. We're officially dating, and I am over the moon. I told him that I want to visit in April, and he hopes I can make it. Then, we'll have our official first date. Til then, we'll be texting just like we have been, video chatting, movie watching, and whatever else we can think of to do together, but apart. 

So, now I am doing a bit of relaxing, and working. Around 11, one of my riding buddies is picking me up to go to lunch. It will be nice since I haven't seen this friend for a long time. Looking forward to it. 

xoxo

Randoms and Fathoms

There are a few things on my mind at the moment. One of them being that my cat needs to be fed. Hang on ....

Ok, she's fed and not yelling at me anymore. I do rather enjoy her meow's, though. 

Anyway, I need to find a job .. ugh. I think I've procrastinated on this for long enough. Unemployment is slowly running out, and I don't think I can apply for an extension. Or, can I? I can't rely on that, so the job search will be serious from now on.

I do have a lead for a writing job! It would be blogging for my friend's company on his website. Waiting for more information on that, but it's exciting because I'll get to write. Also, my own blog isn't getting much hits, and I'm considering taking it more public. Like, Facebook public. Still on the fence about that one. I don't think I want EVERYONE I know to know that Litluv is me. You know? The anonymity I have writing my blog is such a nice little safety wall. Granted, there are a few of my friends and family who know me personally, but I like it that way. Though, I am considering letting FB read my blog. I've told him about it, not much in the way of details. Just that he knows of its existence. I think once he's settled in Colorado, I'll give him the chance to read it ... and then we'll see if he'll stick around after reading about my crazy-upside down social life. Sigh.

Speaking of FB, yes I am missing him. A lot. It's been almost three weeks since he's been gone. We talk a bit everyday, and I love that. Though, he's on my mind, I'm glad he's keeping busy and having a good time up there. I know I'm on his mind as well, and I like that. Still too soon to tell if the distance will hit us hard, but so far, I'm staying positive and it hasn't been so bad. 

Getting back to riding! I'll be doing bike night tomorrow. Yes! Friday night cruise, how I've missed you! I'll be hitching a ride on the back of my friend's Honda cruiser. Nothing too crazy, but it'll be a fun night out with good friends. Saturday, we'll be hitting Chinatown again, this time with family. I find that I enjoy the street fair a lot more when we're with the ones we love. It's crazy and hectic since the street fair is ALWAYS mind bogglingly crowded, but it's a family tradition that I love and will try to keep alive with my own little family unit. No matter where we are. 

Sunday, I think we'll just be lazy and hang around the house. Then, on Monday, B is off school, so I have no idea what we'll do yet. 

So, I think I'll conclude here. Night, readers xoxo