Date night

Hello readers! Just coming in from a fun date night! Mr. Movie-pants and I met up for a late showing of Wrath of the Gods in IMAX 3D at Dole tonight. Gotta say, it was pretty bad-ass! Non-stop action from start to finish. After that, we went back to his place to chill for a little while and then headed back out to Sorabol. I absolutely love that restaurant!


So, now it is WAY passed my bedtime and I have to be at a breakfast by 9 in the morning. I'm going to sleep. Hope you all had a fun Friday night! 


xoxo

Ugh ...

SO glad this effing day is OVER. I promised you all that short story today, but it's going to take a few more days. 


Going to get ready for bed and fall asleep to some Avatar: The Last Air Bender .... the cartoon. 


Goodnight, readers! xoxo

One Month

Today, I'm celebrating one month of my blog's existence in the online world! Thank you to all who have taken the time to read my ramblings, my stories and my gripes. It's been a pleasure writing and keeping things interesting so that you'll keep coming back for more! 

I know, I haven't posted since Monday and the reason is I'm working on a short story that you will see posted here either today or tomorrow. Also, Monday was not a fun day for me, but it was a necessary evil and I am glad I gave myself time to grieve away the feelings I had for motorcycle guy. Not completely over it, but I'm well on my way. 

Now, after killing my hot pastrami sandwich w/fries, a diet coke and some Portuguese bean soup, it's time for KANACK ATTACK. We seriously need to consider putting "nap time" into the work day!  

Cold Water

I wish I didn't LOVE cold water so much, especially at work. In my office, its usually freezing already and I have a small space heater under my desk for that reason. It would be great if I could leave it on indefinitely, but it heats up the power strip and if I don't turn it off in time, it trips the strip. 

So, I drink cold water and other cold drinks during the day and I'm constantly turning on my heater. It's a vicious cycle! Solution? Bring a fleece blanket to work ... yeah.   

Weekend pleasures, disasters and everything in between

Hey readers! I hope you've all enjoyed your weekend! I've had an interesting one ... started out fun and ended up perplexed.

Friday night, I met up with one of my good friends at Shokudo for some drinks, hot-pot rice dishes and some strawberry honey toast! We got to catch up on work stuff and life in general, and then went to catch some live jazz at Jazz Minds. I had an ulterior motive ... I met one of the sax players online and thought it would be fun to see him play. He was more than accommodating ... putting us on the guest list so we didn't have to pay cover and buying me drinks. After his gig, he and I went out for a late night snack and talked.


It was a fun night and I got in pretty late. But, family day on Saturday was just as fun. M took B and I to Moke's for breakfast and then a shopping trip up to Toys R Us. B got her blue dolly stroller she had been wanting since Christmas and she also picked out her birthday gift ... a pink kid-sized Escalade. Oh boy ...We also got carried away playing with "angry bird" dolls ... beaming them at each other until B got hit in the face and had a small fit. She's fine, by the way.


Besides spending a nice Sunday sleeping in with B, we enjoyed a delicious lunch at Sumo's where a husband and wife team of servers we know brought their son who is the same age as B to the restaurant. They got to play a little and he even shared some of his strawberry icee drink with her (separate cup, of course). Later in the evening, I met up with a new guy for some dinner at my favorite pho place. We talked and ate and had a really nice time. And, then, stupid me comes home to log into facebook to see if there was any answer from motorcycle guy. There was none, but since we were on at the same time, a little chat window pops up and there he is. 


At the moment, I am frozen in my spot on the couch. Not sure what to do or say because motorcycle guy has just told me that we aren't going to work out. Of course, I knew this was a possibility since he's been gone for almost 3 months. But, when it actually happens, you can never expect the way you're going to feel. Hurt. Crushed. Sad. I suppose it's my own fault for letting my feelings for the guy escalate, but I had hopes. How stupid was I? Very, apparently.  Not to say that the little go of it we had wasn't fun, but he doesn't plan on staying in Hawaii when he returns from duty. Ouch. But, seriously, what was I to expect? He's a free spirit and needs more space than a little island to roam. I get it. But, it still sucks. And, it hurts. Hopes dashed again. Are there any good guys left? I really don't know ... xoxo

What is up with THAT?!

I was just reading through my gripey work post and had to say one more thing ...

There is another messenger around town and this guy works for one of the firms I used to be at. He's young and reasonably cute, but dude only "knows" me at my office and SOMETIMES at court. If I see him on the street, he doesn't know me. I'll smile and wave, but nothing from him. Just a stone, cold expression with his eyes forward and no break in his stride. 

So, I ask, what the hell is up with THAT? I don't get how some people "know" you at certain places and then completely ignore you at others. Feel free to shed some light on that thought, people. 

xoxo

No! In ElizaBEthan!

Keeping things interesting and on my toes today, the ex has decided to text me all in Elizabethan. Brain is used to working hard, but I am rusty on my medieval speak! For those of you that also text me, please don't start this trend as well ... hahaha!

I'll be back later with another story or conclusion to one ... xoxo

  

You can at least say HELLO

I promised myself I wouldn't bitch about work on my blog, but I need to let something out. There is this one messenger that comes in almost everyday and he has got to be one of the most unfriendly people I've ever met. He's got a sort of snooty attitude and when I say hello, he says nothing. He just hands me the envelope, points to the name on his clipboard and tells me to sign. 

So, I've had it. No more courtesies to this guy. If he wants to be a snooty asswipe, fine!

I'm sorry, guys. I just had to get that out. Ugh ... Now, I can enjoy my trenta black iced tea. Thanks VK!

xoxo

Fun

Last night, Mr. Movie-pants and I saw Journey 2: The Mysterious Island in 3D. I have to say that it was way better than I thought it would be. First of all, I didn't know much about it and hadn't heard too many reviews for it, but one of my Irish boys suggested we see it in 3D, so we did. And, I do have to comment that if you can get around paying that extra for the glasses, do it. The movie ended up being free since my date had free movie passes and I had the 3D glasses. Good deals!

Thinking about weekend plans and contemplating which fun activities to do. Mr. Movie-pants will be off island this weekend, so no plans with him. Last Friday, I was sick so this Friday night, I'll be dining with a good friend at Pietro's and then catching some live jazz at Jazz Minds. And, maybe a late night motorcycle ride with a new friend. We shall see ...

Just one more day of the work week ... can't wait for you, weekend! 

xoxo

 

Obsession, and not of the Calvin Klein variety

Where do I begin with this one ... oh, yeah. This story is long and intricate, but I'll do my best to keep it interesting and brief.

It started out in August, 2008 at a picnic for work. A new attorney was to join our firm and he had been at this picnic. Being wrapped up in my own things, I didn't even know who this guy was until a few months later when he joined the firm. 

Let me preface this a bit before going on. In all my years working in the field of law, there has never been a single attractive male attorney (to me) at any firm I've been at, or any around town for that matter. So, when this guy started with us, his shear height was something to be noticed. Over 6 feet tall, he was an Asian guy that stood out.


He started with us and I didn't notice much else since I had my own things going as far as work. It wasn't until I had to work WITH him that I started to really notice the new guy. A few years older than me, I figured, he was very quiet. But, when he spoke, a deep, sorta raspy sound was what came from his mouth. Totally took me by surprise at first since it just didn't match his features. More and more, we'd be working together and so, we'd talk and email during the day. He'd laugh at my little jokes and call me just to "talk" at the end of the day. He kept me company quite a lot while I waited for my ride home. I didn't really pick up on any of his signals ... probably because I really was trapped in my own world at the time. My marriage was already rocky and I had little B to think about. 


I don't know why it happened, but one day it's like something clicked and all of a sudden I was noticing everything about him. The way he moved, the contours of his face when he smiled, his laugh, his eyes and how they seemed to penetrate my thoughts without my permission. I would notice how he would walk down the hall and glance back every few steps and he would use the entrance to the office closest to my desk rather than the one closest to his office. Strange, I thought and I would talk to one of my closest friends about it and ask her if I'm crazy for being attracted to this guy. She didn't think so and I felt there was nothing wrong with "just looking". And, so the obsession began ....


To be continued .... xoxo    

Happy and Pretty

So, I am feeling much better as I have calmed myself down and am looking forward to going home and spending some quality time with little B. Not to mention I'll be picking up her favorite chocolate milk on the way home!

I did more online research for my motorcycle helmet and I think I've found one! Well, several. I can't choose!

HJC Paradox

At the advice of one of my motorcycle friends, I checked out the HJC website and found pretty decent helmets for good prices. 

This one is the CS-R1 Paradox. I love the color and the design is pretty nice, too. It's lightweight and I just might see if I can get this one in my size.

HJC Katzilla

Next that I like is the CL-Y Katzilla. You can't see it, but on the back is a cat that looks like its ready to shred you to bits! It's cute and is being considered ... Although, I came across this one first and I'm thinking it might be in the lead!

I guess we'll have to see ....

HJC Samurai

And, lastly, the CS-R1 Samurai. This one is pretty cool. I like it's colors and the design. On the right side is a chick samurai and an oni on the left. You can kinda see him in the picture. 

They're all moderately priced and they look to be good helmets. But, which to pick?? If you see one you like, tell me. I like them all, so I'll need help choosing one.

I told you guys shopping for a helmet would be fun!! Now, I need to find some gloves and I will be set for the class. 

Stay tuned and I'll post up the chosen one ... xoxo

 

Thanks a lot, rain

I feel just horrible at the moment. A few Fridays ago, when we had those storms and flood watches around the state, my daughter's preschool had been one that closed. I took that day off in advance because they were supposed to have an activity with your child at school. My daughter's preschool, as I'm sure all others, have many, many activities and opportunities for the parents to be involved with their child's education. I try to be there for each one, but I slipped up this time. 

Today, they had the activity and my little B was the only one without a parent to help her draw the Kalo plant for her t-shirt. My heart just about broke when I called home this afternoon and my Dad tells me that she was the only one without a parent. Sobbing ... at work.

Stuff like this, I can't ask M to take off for. It has to be a life or death situation for him to understand that his daughter needs him, too. I had a fleeting thought this weekend to ask M to be available specifically for this parent-child activity since I used up all my vacation time at work, but I already knew the answer, can't. I'm just one person and it isn't fair that I have all the responsibility when it comes to our daughter. This definitely isn't joint-custody. I don't know what he expects when this turns legal. 

I don't mean to diss on the ex, but I'm sad and frustrated and he isn't helping the situation so I've stopped texting him. One thing is for sure ... I'll definitely have to make it up to my little B for missing out today.

Here's to having a better rest-of-the-day ...xoxo  

Pretty ... part 2

So, I went back to the Arai site to check out the price on the helmet I want and I was floored! Needless to say, I can't afford it and I don't think the guys at the motorcycle shop in Kaneohe can give me THAT good a deal on it. My class is still over a month away, so I have a while left to shop for one. 

The guys at Domenico's will fit me for one and even special order the helmet I want if they don't have it in-store. Until then, the search continues ... xoxo 

How awkward is that?

Wednesday night, Mr. Movie-pants and I had a little date. We went to see John Carter in 3D at the theater close to my house. It was better than I had expected and we both enjoyed it. 


As we were exiting the theaters, we walked arm in arm and talked about where to go eat. A few paces from the door, in walks my ex and his two roommates. I just about lose it laughing when I realize its the three stooges, my lovely Irish boys. The three of them look confused and befuddled at the sight of me with a guy they don't know. We greet each other and talk a little ... I ask what movie they were going to see, and of course it's the same one we came from. So, I told them we enjoyed it and then left with Mr. Movie-pants. 


Walking to the car, I couldn't stop laughing and Mr. Movie-pants gave his opinion on their "state of being" - they were definitely drunk. He thought it was funny and then I mention how awkward that was. He asked why and I told him that we just ran into my ex. "OH" was his reply. Definitely awkward, but really funny. 


So, the next night I had gone over to my ex's since he said he would help me with my car. He did and as I was getting home with the temporary fix with my clutch slave, I notice my brake lights wouldn't go off when I turned off my car. So, it was back to my ex's and I was reminded how much I love my Irish boys. The ex comes out and right behind him are his roommates, one with a flashlight to look for the fuse box under my steering wheel and the other with his tool kit, to loosen the negative charge on my car battery so that I could easily wiggle it off and on to turn off my brake lights. Sigh. They're a great bunch of guys, and since we're framily (friends + family), I was not chastised for being on a date the night before. Love them a lot. 


Obviously, I got a lot of sleep yesterday since I am up way passed my bedtime. Goodnight all ... xoxo. 

Dreams

Hey readers! It's been a few days since I've posted, I know. I've been sick, but feeling much better after much needed rest! 


So, I was napping today and I must have fallen into a deep sleep because I dreamt a very vivid dream. My family had rented a beach house on the North Shore very similar to the one we rented in Hilo last October. It was peaceful and quiet and you know who was there with me? Motorcycle guy. Man, he's even in my subconscious. What the hell?? Anyway, it felt real, like he had never left. We talked and sat obnoxiously close and he'd stare at me the way he used to when he was here ... very intently. 


My family didn't seem to mind that he was there, though I was nervous about it. I don't know why. But, the dream ended when we took him back home. 


This is the second dream he's appeared in since he left. I don't know what it's telling me ... if anything at all. But, I messaged him tonight and told him about it. Don't know if he'll respond tonight, but I am logged into fb at the moment. The hiatus is still on and it's been going well. 


Tomorrow, rather today is St. Patty's Day and we'll be busy, busy, busy! I need to take my car into Lex Brodie in the morning as the brake lights won't go off now. We just temporarily fixed the clutch slave problem and now this. I'm hoping it won't take all morning since the in-laws want to visit with B and we're making corned beef and cabbage for dinner. And, I somehow need to squeeze in a motorcycle helmet shopping trip with a new, good friend. 


I hope everyone had an awesome Friday night! xoxo 

Stoked!

I am getting really excited for my friends' arrival back home from Afghanistan next month! He emailed me last night and asked if there are any good movies I really want to see in the next few weeks. So, I tell him "Yes" and I rattle off a few. And, then I ask "are you gonna take me to the movies?" He replies "Yes!" and how he'd love to go to the movies with me. Stoked!

It's a little hard to believe that this year apart is coming to a close. We kept in touch from a few weeks after he left until the present. Countless emails, skype sessions at midnight or later, letters and postcards, a few care packages and now we're down to 4 weeks until he's back. Amazing how the time flies!

Once he's back, motorcycle guy's countdown continues ... xoxo

 

Scary things about Casual Dating

So, I've been seeing this guy for a little over a week now and I find out today that he's dating other girls. 

At first, this is fine. I mean, who am I to make him date me exclusively? Even I'm seeing more than one person at the moment. But, at what point is it alright to keep juggling people? Currently, I have no feelings for this guy other than the fact that I can count on him to have a good time with. But, then you throw more dating partners in the mix and things start to get weird.

The dynamics of this dating venture might change now that I'm aware of more than one girl in his little black book.  

That's the scary thing about casual dating ... I'm finding out. You can never be too sure if a guy is all he says he is ... or a girl, for that matter. Whether they say they just want to date or are looking for a relationship. You never know how active they are in the dating world. 

Some food for thought. Any opinions or comments? Go ahead and lay it on ... xoxo  

 

Making ass

Wow ... I just realized that I made ass on this one site tonight. I messaged this guy I thought was cute and soon after, I realized that we talked before only, he had a different screen name and all different pictures. Mortified. 


We messaged a bit, but still ... MORTIFIED.


Fuhker-doodles ... xoxo

311 Day

Happy 311 Day!! Cheers to all! 

*image courtesy of home.earthlink.net

Yes, it is March 11, 2012 and another 311 day is passing me by. Sigh. I had planned to be in Vegas this weekend at their 2-day show at the MGM Grand, but life seemed to keep me here, missing out again. They are and have been my favorite band for years and years and years. I've seen them live countless times, but never at their biggest event. That will change next year. 


After my "Man vs. Wild" marathon, I'll definitely have to put on some 311 music while finishing my chores. 


Live it. Play it. Love it. Happy 311 Day!!


xoxo

Bear Grylls, I've missed you

It's cold and rainy out and what a better way to pass the time (and chores) than to have a "Man vs. Wild" marathon! I've missed watching Bear get in and out of tight scrapes and treacherous places! It amazes me how level-headed he can be and all the skills he has to survive in the wild. 


I have no idea how many seasons he's done on this show, but there are quite a few episodes I've missed according to Netflix. Time to tuck in and watch  .... intensely! 


xoxo

Tonight

Well, it's Saturday night, and as you all know there was a date to be had. It didn't happen. But,  I am very fine with that. 


Mr. Movie-pants and I did a movie night-in last night. We watched "Kill Bill Vol. 1" and "Zombieland." It was very nice and quiet ... talking here and there, laughing together, sipping on wine, and just having a good time. 


Tonight, I am just beat. Craving a night at home with netflix, the babe and my warm, comfy couch. And, as you probably saw in my previous post that I'm having lingering thoughts about motorcycle guy. Sigh. Someone shoot me already.


xoxo

Boggled ... and still aloof

How do I communicate with someone who's given me limited options? Yes, motorcycle guy is on my mind again. 


I'm still on my FB hiatus, but I'm logged in at the moment. Cleared my messages and saw the updates that I missed. And then I find myself wandering over to his page. He's been active, I can tell since he's currently logged in through his iphone. I dare not try to chat with him as I do not want to be a bother. If he wanted to write me, he would. But, he has not. 


Can't help but want to be in touch ... still. I don't like that he's only willing to communicate on facebook. Why do I still care? I do not know ....


xoxo 

Story Time ... again

Alright, who's ready for another dating story? Well, this guy and I didn't even get to the "dating" stage of things. But, here's what happened ...

I met him in mid December of last year on an online site where we exchanged messages for a little while. My first impressions of this one were that he was responsible, knew exactly what he wanted and pretty good looking. Also, he was my age. Bonus! 

So, we talk and eventually start texting and even chatting on the phone. That's rare for me as I am not a "phone" person. At first, I thought his voice didn't match his face ... it was deep with a sort of country twang. It was fine and we'd have some entertaining conversations. This dude, I find out is a harley guy and a few weeks before we met, he'd been in an accident which left him holed-up at home. It would be weeks before he healed and was able to do anything outside the house, so we kept texting and talking a bit longer. 

Before I go any further, let me be clear that HE contacted me first and HE kept saying how he couldn't wait 6 to 8 weeks to meet. So, one day, I was shopping at Safeway with B and M and every once in a while, I'd get a text from harley guy. It eventually led up to our first meet. He invited me up to his place that evening to hang out and watch movies. I was hesitant because he said before how he was a little self-conscious about his current state after his accident. But, he insisted that he was fine and really wanted to meet.

I go up to his place, a little shy at first but we start talking and then put on a movie, "Friends with Benefits" ... Right? What was I thinking?? Anyway, we're lying there on his pull-out sofa, under the covers since it was cold up at his place without much talk during the movie. It started to feel a little awkward toward the end, so after chatting a little, giving a cuddle a try and then using his upstairs bathroom one more time, I decided to go and let him rest. 


Wasn't quite sure if he thought it was a little weird, but I got my answer the next day. I asked him if he felt a little awkward about the evening. He said "yeah, a little." And, while I agreed with him, I was still a bit bummed because before the awkwardness set in, I was starting to like him.


Needless to say, we didn't talk much after that. His text messaging stopped and he unfriended me on Facebook which I thought was rude because I didn't do anything wrong. 

SO, that was the end of that! As always, readers, feel free to spill any of your awkward dating/relationship stories. While this one was very short-lived, it was still one more for the blogs and one more lesson learned. 

Until the next post ... xoxo

HFS

Remember that abbreviation because when you see "21 Jump Street", it will make perfect sense. I am so happy to have had the opportunity to see it tonight. Thank you VK! This movie is going to be a big hit in the box office! HILARIOUS, I kid you not! Release date for theaters is March 16. GO SEE IT! 


And then tell me what you thought. 


So, besides being surprised by the invitation to the screening set in front of my computer this morning, I got another little surprise. Impromptu date night with Mr. Dinner guy. I had asked if he'd be able to make the screening on such short notice. At first he said he wasn't able to and I wasn't surprised. But, then I get a text about an hour later saying that he's in if I hadn't found anyone else to go with. YAY! I thought, and right before that, I had decided not to go. Then I thought that of all the movies coming out lately, this one I really wanted to see and the opportunity was staring at me point blank. So, I made some calls to make sure B was taken care of for the evening, and voila! Mr. Movie-pants (yeah, that's what I'll call him) and I had date #2 - spontaneously. 


We are still on for Saturday night. Dinner in Waikiki and a movie. 


Sleep tight, my lovelies .... xoxo

Movie screening? Yes, please!

Good day, readers! What a hectic day! I, for one am glad it's almost over ... the workday, that is. This evening, I'll be attending an advanced screening of the upcoming movie "21 Jump Street." Looks hilarious and I am counting the minutes until I can head over to the theater. 

Today, I missed early bird parking by about 2 hours, so I ended up parking across from Circuit Court. It's about 3 blocks from my building and not a very long walk, but I am currently feeling out my date for a ride to my car before we head to the theater. I'm usually good to go on my own, but since he's headed this way around the time I'm done, why not??

Well, I hope you all have a great night! I know you're reading, my dearies ... I know you're out there. I appreciate it very much ... xoxo

Hiatus ... part 2

Going on day 6 of my hiatus from that social media monopoly, Facebook. I think its been going well. Though, I realized yesterday that I was still logged in to fb through my blackberry! I was a little embarrassed since my status has been "Hiatus" for the passed 6 or so days and I'm STILL logged in for people on my friend list to see. How dumb is that? Anyhoo, yesterday evening, I checked my fb messages one last time before I logged out completely. No more notifications straight to my phone and no more checking daily to see if motorcycle guy has written me. 

Sigh. I miss him, rather the idea of him in my life and as far as keeping in touch? It was his idea, but it's my idea to cut it off. At least for now. I don't think he really cares. So, I won't either. 

On the other hand, I miss little daily exchanges with a few of my fb family. I'm hoping that they will find me here, on my blog. Whether they are just readers or readers with an opinion, or if they have a story to share, I welcome it all!  

Just killed my chili cheese fries lunch. Ready for a nap ... xoxo

You put WHAT in my omelet?

Yesterday morning, I ordered a garden omelet from 3 Star, here in town. Usually, you'd find tomatoes, mushrooms, onions, scallions, maybe some green or red pepper in any veggie omelet, right? Well, this particular garden omelet had all of these, but instead of the green pepper, I find watercress. WATERCRESS in my omelet! I know it's a vegetable, but in an omelet?? The flavor of the watercress overpowered the whole dish. Don't get me wrong, I love watercress ... in stir fry, soup, anything BUT my omelet. 

Anyway, I ate as much as I could of it, but by the time I had downed half, I couldn't take anymore. Kind of wondering if I should say something to the restaurant since I didn't find watercress in my garden omelet the last time I ordered it. Nahhhh! Could have been a fluke.

Ever find anything you wouldn't dare put in an omelet or your favorite dish made by someone else?? There's also one other dish I would advise against: watermelon curry. That's a story for next time ... xoxo 

Pretty ...

So, I found my motorcycle helmet ... online. It's an Arai brand and I hear they're pretty good helmets. Just have to find a dealer that has this little bad-ass thing!

If you know where I can find this helmet and how much it is, let me know! I'd love to have it before I take my class! Actually, I need a helmet for the class and I'd like it to be this one. So pretty ... g'night readers! xoxo

Story Time ... and, this one's a doozy

Ok, who's up for a weird dating story? This guy was definitely amiss ...

Met this guy last November online at one of those dating sites. At 27, I still consider that pretty young, but I decided to let that slide since I thought he was pretty cute and seemed to really want to get to know me. So, we exchange a few messages on the site before exchanging cell numbers and then texting. 

First off, this guy came on pretty strong. I mean, the things he would say in his text messages could really f*ck with a girl's mind if she really let it. We hadn't even met and he was already asking me to be his girl. So, we decide to meet at December First Friday. My friend was having her birthday party at a small place in Chinatown and so I asked him to meet me there. Got there a little early and had hopes he wouldn't be too far behind me. But, as the night went on with no call or text from him, I figured he wasn't going to show. I tried not obsessing about it, but I did call him a few times to see if he was coming. It wasn't until midnight that I get a call from him saying he was "scared" to meet.  

Well, after getting to know this guy a little better, I found he was just full of shit and not right in the head. We did meet that night and actually went on a date the next night. Things seemed to be going fine until Sunday afternoon. He texts me that he had a good time but wasn't "feeling it." Wow. After all that fanfare, the physical attraction that he expressed in such a short time, made me think that something had to be wrong since he seemed to be taking it all back. Somehow, he was under the impression that I wanted him to be MY boyfriend when I was very clear in the beginning that I wanted nothing of the sort. And, it seemed he really liked playing with girls' emotions. And the head-games ... ugh. I couldn't trust anything he said, nor make plans with him and he would call ME 'bat-shit crazy'. 

Anyway, after two weeks of this nonsense crap, I decided to be done with this guy and move the hell on. No one should have to put up with the games he was playing with me. 

A few weeks after I'd deleted him from my cell, he tried to get back in touch and set up a date and had implied he wanted to be friends with benefits. I mean, are you KIDDING me?? I laughed at the notion and decided not to waste anymore time with this jerkface. But, after this guy, there came a slew of jerks (or what felt like it) in such a short amount of time until I met motorcycle guy. 

If anyone has a funny or weird dating story to share, please be my guest! There's more to come ... another time. 

xoxo   

Weekend

So, the weekend flew by as usual and I, for one, had a nice one.


Friday night, a few friends and I celebrated March First Friday with dinner at Du Vin, then cocktails and dessert at Bambu Two. While I love the food at Du Vin, dining there on a First Friday can be somewhat less enjoyable as dining there on any other night of the week. Our wait was about 20 minutes only to be sat at a bar table with hardly any room for the bread, three water glasses and our bread plates. Thank goodness it was next to the piano as we ended up placing our totes, table candle, phones, sweaters and the olive oil/vinegar set on it since there was no room on the table or bar stools. 


Besides our accommodations for dinner, the food was excellent and so was the company! After dinner, we headed over to Bambu Two and I was impressed with how hip and trendy this place is. We chose a nice little corner to settle in for a while and ordered a few drinks. My friend and I had gone back to Du Vin to scope out the dessert case and brought back a few treats to munch on. 


Before I move on to Saturday night's date, I need to comment on the bathroom set up at Bambu Two. I found it very interesting as there are three stalls, all of which are unisex with the sink outside. I used it once and as I was drying my hands, some random guy comes out to wash his hands. There we were standing next to each other and it felt so odd to be in the bathroom with a boy as he washed his hands and I retouched my make up. Strange, but nothing I couldn't handle. As I was about to exit, another guy comes in looking perplexed as all the doors were shut and there was a girl standing by the sink (me). I told him they're all full and as I walked out the door, he opens one to find another guy sitting there doing his business without locking the door. Some people just don't think. Anyway .... it's nothing to be afraid of, you might even get a funny story out of it like I did. Needless to say, I'll be going back to Bambu Two again. I enjoyed the atmosphere and the drinks, too. 


Saturday, B and I took M to lunch in town and to the Waikiki Aquarium for his birthday. B had the best time showing her daddy all her favorite exhibits and she was brave enough this time to hold a hermit crab at the touch pool. 

Before leaving, we had to stop in the gift shop and get B something of the jellyfish nature. Two new exhibits at the aquarium included the White Spotted Jellyfish and even a People Tank! Haha ...


That evening, I had a date with Mr. I want to take you to dinner. Yup, he came through. Made it to the restaurant before me, even. Finally met this guy and he's pretty cool. A little on the loud side, but nothing too bad. He's very nice and seems very interested in me. The conversation flowed well and we went to see a movie, too. That was unexpected. We kept it light and went to see "This Means War." Funniest movie I've seen in a while! Date number 2 is set for next Saturday. 


Well, readers, I don't know if anyone is reading this, but if you are, thanks! I know this was a long one and I will try to keep it short and sweet ... mostly. Have a good night all ... xoxo

Maybe we could find new ways to fall apart - Vol. 1

Seems I'm finding all the ways to fall apart in the way of dating. Things have a way of crumbling before they even really get started. 

The latest guy that I've been talking to has already bailed on me three times in the last few days. We started talking/texting a little over a week ago. Maybe two weeks ... I've lost track. Anyway, the first time, he wanted to accompany me to my cousin's fundraiser at her school. I was fine with it, but told myself not to get my hopes up. So when he texted me that day saying he had forgotten about his son's soccer game, I wasn't surprised. Then, says he wants to make it up to me and take me to dinner some time during the week. I thought that would be perfect because I had errands in town after work on Wednesday. We agree to meet after I was done and so the night comes and I get to my destination, Forever 21, earlier than expected. I text him that I would be done soon (since the dress I was looking for found me first)  and then put my phone in my bag while I peruse the store a little more. So, before going to check out, I pull out my phone and notice a missed call from Mr. I want to take you to dinner. I call him back and I ask "where are you" playfully, since I was getting hungry and anxious to meet. He responds with "please don't hate me" and I figure, he's bailing. Again. For the second time. He had a legitimate excuse (family emergency), so I took it gracefully and told him not to worry about it. Duty calls. 

The third time is happening to me right now.  

This morning, I receive a text from him asking what I'm going to do after work. I was surprised since we had made plans the night before to go to dinner tomorrow night. I respond  with "its First Friday." He hadn't been to one before so I gave him the rundown.  Long story made short, he asked if he could join us tonight and I was delighted to get a sooner chance to meet. So, the day goes on and we are texting here and there. Keeping it light and fun until he says that he may have to work late. Here is where I start to have doubts. He apologizes and promises to make it up to me. 

For me, after the third diss, I tend to start getting over it. I mean, we haven't even met in person yet and he's already dissed me three times. Promises of dinner tomorrow are looking bleak and I am not sure I even want to deal with this anymore.  

You might be thinking, what made me this way? Well, those stories will be in future posts. One doozy of a story comes to mind. I will share it another time.  

Have a wonderful Friday night, all! xoxo 

Random Ramblings

Now that I've started this blog, there are so many topics swirling around in my head that I just can't choose and focus on one. I think every now and then I'll have one of these posts dedicated to Random Ramblings. And it goes like this .....

In a few short weeks, one of my friends that has been in Afghanistan for the past 10 1/2 months will be coming back to Hawaii. I had a thing for this guy somethin' fierce last year, but that's ended up being nothing more than a mutual attraction and companionship. It will be nice to have him back to go to movies with and do the occasional Taco Tuesday. To just have a buddy I can always call and hang out with will be nice than just daily email exchanges and skype sessions.

The other night, I went into Forever 21 in Waikiki with one goal in mind: pink ruffle mini-dress. I had found this dress at the online store and hoped it would be there for me to try. Not only was it there, but as I started browsing through the first rack of clothes, a dress falls to my feet and wouldn't you know it? It's the pink ruffle mini-dress! Talk about a clear sign that I was supposed to have this dress. Wearing it tonight ...

On my daily run to the post office today, I almost got shit on by those lovely pigeons that hang out right above the staircase at the downtown location. Everyday, I cautiously step between old and new clumps of crap praying it won't rain shit-snacks on my head. Well, it almost happened today. I was lucky to be one step away from a little storm of crap. Bleh!

Alright, I think that's enough randomness for today. Next post will be thought out .... mostly.

Til the next one .... xoxo

 

 

Did your butt just call me?

I'm sure it's happened to you before ... whether your butt's the one doing the calling or your on the receiving end of such a mysterious call. I've done it ... many times. Not proud of it, but that sort of thing happens when you have a non-flip cell phone.

Years ago, I used to have a small samsung cell that wasn't a flip phone. It was my first one of the sort and it didn't lock after I would receive calls. So, this one time after work, I was walking to my car and I hear a little voice coming out of my bag. My phone had dialed a friend and he was shouting into the phone "Hello? HELLOOOO?" I didn't know what to do, so I panicked and hung it up. Next time I saw this friend, I had to apologize for my "bag-call"! 

I guess, for me, it occurs whilst in my tote, even now with a blackberry. With other people I know, it's an actual "butt-call" and I crack up every time I get one. 

But, it isn't so funny at work. I made this post just because I received 2 butt-calls in a row this afternoon. I mean, I don't have the most prestigious job where my time is so important, but when you're into a project and a call comes in, it can be rather distracting. 

So, anybody have a funny "butt-call" story? Feel free to comment as I'd love to read about it!

xoxo 

The EX factor

Some might say, to hell with the EX, but I can't be one of those carefree people who cut all ties when it's over and divorce is imminent. Reason? Well, most of you know that we have a 4 year old little girl together and she is our little miracle. Briseis is bright, smart, and such a funny little girl that it would hurt her too much for me to keep her away from the bain of my existence (sometimes, anyway). It's the ex's birthday today and I had asked him a week or two ago if he'd like to do something? His response, "I don't know, we'll see." Trying to keep the peace, I said "okay" and brushed it off. So, the day is here and last night before going to bed, I had a thought that Briseis and I would take him to dinner to help ease the transition from 32 to 33. Because its just too damn hard for some people to accept, yet another year of aging. 


So, I text him this morning. Wished him a happy birthday and asked if he had plans. I don't know why I was shocked, but yes, he does have plans. Going to dinner and drinking with his co-workers after they are done at the restaurant. They're all a bunch of party people that he works with, so I know nothing good can come out this. But, it's no longer my place to be concerned about what he does on his own time.

Great. Now I'm starting to tear up. I shouldn't let him have any kind of effect on me, but after 12 years of dating and marriage, its tough moving on ... completely. Even after all the dating and meeting people throughout last year. Which brings me to my next post. 

Stay tuned ... xoxo