So, remember that post where I said Mr. Movie-pants and I were going to give it a real try? Well, we did. And, it failed. Miserably and fast. At the time, I knew it was a giant mistake, but I went ahead and gave it a shot anyway.
From my pov, I could have been a better girlfriend. And, I would have been, but I couldn't get passed the fact that he was going to leave me for at least a year in October. I say at least because through our talks, he was starting to say that his move to Utah wasn't a sure thing. All three of his kids are there, and he had started to think about NOT going through with his divorce. What was I supposed to do? Or think? So, I started to take our thing casually. I would go out with friends and make other plans on the nights he worked. I go out riding with groups and on solo rides and this would bug him to no end. I couldn't understand why since he would always vent to me about his dealings with the ex and his thoughts about what he's going to do when he gets to Utah.
To make a long story short, he got possessive of me and the time I spend that wasn't with him. He asked if I could put off my love of going out riding on hold until he left in October. I couldn't believe that came out of his mouth! He instantly said he was joking when he saw my reaction, but I knew he wasn't. So, tonight, when he stewed all day about me choosing to stay at home rather than hang out with him, he calls me to tell me that he's tired of waiting for me to do something when he has all these other invitations from girls that want to date and shag him. He tells me that if I still want to date him, that's fine, but he'll be out dating trying to fuck other girls. I say I'm done and couldn't be happier to be rid of him except for one thing. And, it's not what you think ... dirty minds!!
He was a real asshole about it. All he had to say was "I'm tired of waiting around for you, so I'm out." That would have been totally acceptable. He did NOT have to tell me how he's going to date other girls and try to get laid. Oh, and date me at the same time. That was uncalled for. Especially from a guy who says that I had his heart wholeheartedly. Yeah fucking right.
At least now I'm free to make plans with whomever I want without him blowing up about it. I had planned on skipping the next bike night because it was his birthday. But, now ... all deals are off! I'm going on that ride guilt-free!
So, riddle me this...why would you keep dating him when he's questioning going through his divorce? I would have dropped him that second!
ReplyDeleteI suppose it's something like you mentioned ... I kept dating him because he was there. He filled the space until I found someone I really wanted. Although, I didn't stay with him that long, and there wasn't anyone better at the end of it. Just a bunch of much needed freedom to do what I wanted without a naggy guy texting me every hour. Haha!
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