Hello readers! It's been a few weeks, but I'm back! A lot has been going on and I am now back on facebook. Not super active or anything, but I can, once again, tolerate certain peoples' posts without looking too much into things.
Though, there is one thing on my mind right now. I met a guy online five or six weeks ago and he's a biker. I like him just fine and we are both in the mindset of just being friends. The mutual interest, motorcycles. So, we text here and there and he's invited me out riding a few times. In return, I've invited him to movies and dinner with friends. We've hung out a bit, but I get this strange feeling that he might think I'm into him more than just wanting to be friends.
This has happened to me before. I befriend a guy and then they end up thinking, for whatever reason, that I want more. Whether they actually tell me that or not, I always find out some way or another and then what could have been a nice friendship turns into nothing at all. In one case last summer, this guy I went out with just as friends interprets my invitation to an advanced screening of a movie and drinks before that as "she wants me and won't stop chasing me." How the EFF does that happen? I only found out because this guy happened to be one of my cousins' good friends and the idiot tells my cousin these lies about me chasing after a relationship with him. HELLO! Blood is thicker than water! My cousin tells me this and asks if I'm into his friend like that. I simply roll my eyes and tell him that his idiot friend got the wrong idea.
I mean, c'mon guys! Is it really THAT impossible for a girl to JUST want to be friends with a guy? Is that too hard to accept? It boggles the mind and it confuses the hell out of me when all I want is to be friends and share in the love and enthusiasm of motorcycles.
So, this case in particular is one that I don't want to fizzle out. This guy has great connections in the biking world and I really enjoy going out with him and the rest of the crew. Plus, he's full of knowledge for a beginner like me. Now, I won't lie and say that he doesn't fit the type that I'm attracted to spot on, because he does. But, I'm not into him like that. For a girl my age, I can handle a platonic relationship with a guy whom I may or may not be attracted to. I just wish I didn't have this weird feeling that he's pushing me away. It's pretty damn stupid. Oh well ... guess we'll find out tomorrow night.
Goodnight readers ... xoxo
Do you ever wonder if you've been in his spot, jumping to conclusions that someone is interested in you when they just want to be friends?
ReplyDeleteOf course! That's when I have to step back and let things play out. I always make my intentions very clear with guys I meet. This one knew I only wanted to be friends. But, it's been my experience that guys think you want more than you actually do.
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