So, I've been seeing this guy for a little over a week now and I find out today that he's dating other girls.
At first, this is fine. I mean, who am I to make him date me exclusively? Even I'm seeing more than one person at the moment. But, at what point is it alright to keep juggling people? Currently, I have no feelings for this guy other than the fact that I can count on him to have a good time with. But, then you throw more dating partners in the mix and things start to get weird.
The dynamics of this dating venture might change now that I'm aware of more than one girl in his little black book.
That's the scary thing about casual dating ... I'm finding out. You can never be too sure if a guy is all he says he is ... or a girl, for that matter. Whether they say they just want to date or are looking for a relationship. You never know how active they are in the dating world.
Some food for thought. Any opinions or comments? Go ahead and lay it on ... xoxo
I think after the first date with someone you're interested in, the expectation is to cut the rest loose. For me, when I date more than one person at a time, they are just space-fillers until one that strikes my fancy comes along. Then a blanket notice goes out the next day with a follow up to the man of my choosing letting them know that I am now exclusively dating them. Never give someone you're into the upperhand, take control of the situation and represent yourself as someone bold enough to state what she wants. If it scares the guy away, you saved yourself time, heartache and gain self-awareness!
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