Remember a while back in one of my earliest posts, I wrote about how dating within my group of friends was just out of the question? Well, yes I am now dating one of them, but that's beside the point. And, it's a whole different case.
This recent situation has to do with one of my riding buddies who is deployed at the moment. He had started seeing this girl a few months before he left. She's a sweet girl, and the group welcomed her while he was here, and embraced her after he left. She has been included in everything. It was our pleasure to make her feel like one of us for the sake of our buddy.
But, this past weekend proved the point I made in my earlier post about girls that are brought into the group by one of the guys just because they are dating.
Some shit went down Friday night, and now she is an outcast. All the guys are convinced she's bad news, and now I don't know what to do since I have become pretty good friends with her. Sigh.
Since I'm dating one of the main guys in our group, it makes it extra hard to keep up this friendship. I know she's sad about it being over, but I think it's even harder because she was doing things with us a lot. Even some of the girls I talked to are mixed about it. I feel bad, but if the accusations are true, I'm gonna have to leave this one alone.
It's not at all about who I'm dating, or what he'll think of me. It's about the fact we trusted this girl to be true to one of our friends. And, that's the thing. I think that if she and my friend had split on mutual terms, she would still be welcome in our framily. But, since it ended horribly, she'll no longer be a part of anything we do.
And, that is what I was talking about. Coming into such a wonderful group as my motorcycle framily as someone's significant other, rather than another motorcycle lover. It's a totally different thing. These people are not only my friends, they've become like family. And, had I started dating one of them from the beginning, I guarantee that I wouldn't be a part of them the way I am now.
Such is the case with one of our other girl friends. She and her guy are teetering on the brink of a broken relationship. She's been around the group for well over a year now, but once it's over (if it goes that way), she'll be outcast from a lot of events as well. Though, I won't shun her, it will be hard for her to not be a part of a lot of the things we all do together.
You may think I'm being judgmental about these girls, but I can assure you that I'm not. I like them, and will keep them as friends. The first one, not so sure about yet because that one ended really badly. Though, she's always been kind and sweet to me, I'm staying out of this one. I told her to just let it go, and it's for the best. And, it really is.
So, I've had a full day today, but I'm heading out again. Bowling in Kailua. Have a good night, loves.
xoxo
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